BREAKUPS AND AQUARIUS

WHY MIGHT YOU WANT TO BREAK UP WITH AN AQUARIUS?

If you break up with an Aquarius, it will often be down to their compulsive desire for personal freedom and the feeling that you never really come first in their life. If you’re looking for a totally exclusive relationship where each of you spends most of your time with the other, Aquarius is probably the wrong choice for you. An Aquarius will never give up their vast social network for anyone – not even for you!

An Aquarius’s ability to cut off from their feelings means that – unlike more ordinary mortals – however bad the situation, they rarely get angry and are usually able to look at things in an impersonal way. All fine and good, but because Aquarians’ detachment can make them seem rather cold and uncaring, it’s a major source of relationships breakups with people born under this Sign.

Particularly challenging for more insecure types is Aquarius’s seeming inability ever to get jealous. As the Star Sign least into possessiveness or power games, Aquarius is happy to let you do your own thing without interfering. If you interpret this, often quite wrongly, as lack of emotional commitment, it can be a reason for you wanting to break up with them.


HOW SHOULD YOU GO ABOUT BREAKING UP WITH AN AQUARIUS?

No need to break a sweat at the prospect of telling an Aquarius you’re breaking up with them. For many Aquarians breakups are frequent occurrences and somewhat low-key events which they’re able to take comfortably in stride. 

To enable both of you to move on more easily, make a point of giving an Aquarius a clear and logical explanation of why you’re breaking up with them. What’s important to them is being able to understand your thinking. What’s not important to them is understanding your feelings. So while an Aquarius needs to know why you’re breaking up with them, they won’t ‘get’ it if you present your reasons in emotional terms.

WHAT SHOULD YOU EXPECT IF YOU BREAK UP WITH AN AQUARIUS?

If, when you break up with an Aquarius, you’re expecting them to miss you so much they have an emotional meltdown, you’re likely to be seriously disappointed. Because an Aquarius’s level of attachment to their lovers isn’t quite as intense as most other people’s, it’s relatively easier for them to let go and move on when they have to. 

That’s not to say an Aquarius won’t be hurt if you break up with them, but they’ll try very hard not to show it. Because this Star Sign hates to appear emotionally vulnerable, they do an excellent job of concealing their true feelings. 

Having broken up with an Aquarius, you certainly shouldn’t expect them to keep begging you to take them back. The truth is they’ve probably already lined up your replacement from among their huge circle of friends and acquaintances.


REASONS FOR AN AQUARIUS BREAKING UP WITH YOU

If an Aquarius breaks up with you, the most likely reason is that you’ve been violating their need for personal freedom. Aquarians demand the space to be able to mix freely with all kinds of people when and where they want to, whether or not they’re in a relationship. So if you make the mistake of attempting to box them in, tie them down, or cut them off from their friends, they’re likely to head straight for the door. 

In many cases, if an Aquarius breaks up with you, it’s because you’ve been acting too needy, making too many demands on them, or looking for too much support. Because this is the most independent of all the Star Signs, it has little time for people who are always leaning on others and looking for a shoulder to cry on. To hold an Aquarius’s interest and prevent them getting bored with you, you have to be prepared to be your own person and show you can look after yourself. 

Another big turn-off for an Aquarius, that might lead them to break up with you, is any kind of bigotry on your part. If you come across as intolerant and prejudiced or try to set yourself up as superior to others, Aquarius will instantly lose all respect for you. 

HOW AN AQUARIUS IS LIKELY TO BREAK UP WITH YOU

When an Aquarius breaks up with you, they won’t make a big deal out of it, and they won’t expect you to either. They’ll assume that, like them, you accept that lovers come and go, and no relationship lasts forever. It’s tough luck for you if you don’t share their emotional resilience and detachment. Because when an Aquarius breaks up with you, they’re unlikely to pay much attention to your sensitive feelings.

Since it’s important to an Aquarius to remain friends with you after a breakup, they’ll be keen to end the relationship on good terms. They’ll convey their genuine appreciation of all the happy times you’ve had together, while charitably glossing over all the past trouble and strife. They’ll ensure that the terms of the breakup are fair and equitable. And if they have any outstanding obligations to you, they’ll try their best to fulfill them. 


HOW TO WIN BACK AN AQUARIUS

Your best tactic for winning back an Aquarius is to play it cool, behave like you don’t really care and just let them go. Okay, it means putting on a big act because inside your heart may be breaking. But because possessiveness is a major turn off for a freedom loving Aquarius, trying to hold onto them will only drive them further away.

You’ll also ruin your chances of winning back an Aquarius by appealing to them at an emotional level. Because this highly logical Star Sign finds it hard to relate to feelings (both yours and their own), it’s best to keep them completely out of the equation. Instead, present an Aquarius with a strong rational argument as to why they should get back together with you again. 

To win back an Aquarius it’s important to avoid lowering yourself by resorting to shabby behavior, which will only arouse their contempt and destroy their respect for you. Prove you’re a decent human being by handling the breakup with moral integrity, and an Aquarius is more likely to realize their mistake in breaking up with you.